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The Real Reason Your Team Meetings Are a Waste of Everyone's Time (And How to Fix Them Without Another Workshop)
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The coffee was getting cold, Sarah from HR was reading directly from her laptop screen for the fourth time, and I was calculating how much this 90-minute "quick catch-up" was costing the company in salaries alone. That's when it hit me: we've completely forgotten how to have a proper bloody conversation at work.
After seventeen years of watching Australian businesses burn through millions on communication training that doesn't stick, I've come to one inescapable conclusion. Most workplace communication problems aren't actually communication problems at all. They're listening problems, ego problems, and "we've always done it this way" problems dressed up in expensive training modules.
The Uncomfortable Truth About Communication Training
Here's something that'll ruffle a few feathers: most communication training courses miss the mark entirely. They focus on speaking techniques when the real issue is that nobody's actually listening anymore. We're all just waiting for our turn to talk.
I learned this the hard way back in 2019. Spent fifteen grand on a fancy Melbourne consultant to run workshops for our entire sales team. Beautiful PowerPoints, role-playing exercises, the works. Six months later, client complaints were up 23% and our internal satisfaction scores had actually dropped.
Why? Because we'd taught everyone to sound more professional while completely ignoring the fact that they weren't hearing what customers were actually saying.
The breakthrough came when I stopped focusing on teaching people how to communicate and started helping them understand why they needed to. Game changer.
What Actually Works (And What Doesn't)
Let me be blunt about something that might upset the training industry: most people already know how to communicate. They learned it as toddlers. The problem isn't knowledge—it's motivation and environment.
Think about it. Put the same person who fumbles through team updates in a room with their best mate talking about the weekend's footy, and suddenly they're articulate, engaging, and clear. The difference isn't skill. It's context.
Here's what I've discovered actually moves the needle:
Remove the performance anxiety. Half the mumbling and corporate-speak comes from people terrified of saying the wrong thing. Create psychological safety first, communication skills second.
Kill the jargon addiction. I once worked with a Perth mining company where "leverage synergistic opportunities" was genuinely used in meetings. Real people don't talk like LinkedIn posts.
Stop rewarding the loudest voice. Some of your best insights are coming from people who speak up once per meeting, if at all. But we've created cultures where volume equals value.
The Meeting Trap That's Killing Your Culture
Here's where I'll probably lose some of you: most meetings shouldn't exist. There, I said it.
We've become addicted to gathering people in rooms (or Zoom screens) and calling it collaboration. But collaboration isn't twenty people sitting around while three people talk. That's just an expensive audience with bad Wi-Fi.
The companies I work with that have genuinely transformed their communication? They cut their meeting load by 60-70% first, then focused on making the remaining ones actually useful.
Woolworths gets this right. Their store team briefings are legendary for being short, specific, and actionable. Compare that to some corporate environments where "quick sync" means an hour of updates that could've been an email.
The Feedback Problem Nobody Talks About
Want to know what really breaks workplace communication? Our complete inability to give and receive feedback like adults.
I'm talking about the passive-aggressive email chains. The "constructive criticism" that's really just criticism with a bow on it. The annual performance reviews where everyone pretends to be surprised by issues that have been festering for months.
Here's the thing about feedback that most professional development training completely misses: timing matters more than technique.
The best feedback happens in the moment, when context is fresh and emotions aren't running high. Not three weeks later in a scheduled one-on-one where you're both trying to remember exactly what happened.
I learned this from a Brisbane construction foreman who had zero formal training but somehow managed teams better than most MBA graduates. His secret? He dealt with issues immediately, privately, and always started with questions instead of statements.
"What do you think went wrong there?" hits differently than "Here's what you did wrong."
The Technology Trap
Speaking of things that might annoy people: Slack and Teams have made communication worse, not better.
Before you come for me, hear me out. These tools are brilliant for information sharing. Absolutely useless for actual relationship building or complex problem-solving.
We've replaced hallway conversations with emoji reactions and somehow convinced ourselves this is progress. But human connection doesn't scale through technology. It requires presence, attention, and sometimes just sitting in uncomfortable silence while someone works through their thoughts.
The most effective teams I work with use technology for logistics and face-to-face (even if it's video) for everything that actually matters.
What Your Communication Problems Are Really About
After nearly two decades in this game, I can usually spot the real communication issue within the first hour of working with a team. It's rarely what they think it is.
Power dynamics. When the person with budget approval consistently interrupts others, that's not a communication problem. That's a leadership problem.
Unclear expectations. People can't communicate effectively about goals they don't understand or deadlines that keep shifting.
Wrong medium. Some conversations need to happen face-to-face. Others work fine over email. Using the wrong one creates friction that looks like communication failure.
Cultural mismatches. Hierarchical organisations trying to implement "open communication" without addressing the underlying power structures. Good luck with that.
The Australian Advantage (That We're Wasting)
Here's something I'm genuinely proud of: Australians are naturally good at direct communication. We say what we mean, usually without three layers of corporate fluff.
But we're losing this advantage by importing communication styles that don't fit our culture. The American-style "let's circle back and ideate some solutions" approach just sounds silly in an Australian workplace.
Our strength is in straight talk, good humour, and getting to the point. Stop trying to sound like a Silicon Valley startup when you're a Melbourne accounting firm.
JB Hi-Fi absolutely nails this. Their internal communications sound like they're written by actual humans who enjoy their jobs. Compare that to retailers who issue press releases that sound like they were written by committee and approved by legal.
The Simple Framework That Actually Works
Rather than spending months on communication workshops, try this instead:
Week 1: Observe. Document every communication failure or success. No judgment, just data.
Week 2: Identify patterns. Is it always the same people? Same types of situations? Same channels?
Week 3: Address the biggest pain point first. Not the easiest one. The one that's causing the most actual damage.
Week 4: Measure the difference. If it's not clearly better, try something else.
Most communication problems aren't complex. They're just persistent. And persistence requires systems, not more training on how to make eye contact.
Why This Matters More Than Ever
Remote work has amplified every communication weakness we had before COVID. The buffer of casual interaction is gone. Everything is intentional now, which means every miscommunication has higher stakes.
But here's the opportunity: organisations that figure out intentional communication will absolutely dominate in the next decade. While everyone else is struggling with hybrid work arrangements and digital fatigue, you'll have teams that actually function effectively regardless of location.
The companies getting this right aren't the ones with the fanciest communication training programs. They're the ones that treat communication as a system, not a skill set.
Look, I could keep going about this for another thousand words. The root cause analysis techniques, the cultural barriers, the generational differences that everyone obsesses over but rarely matter as much as they think.
But honestly? Most communication problems get solved by people who genuinely care about understanding each other and organisations brave enough to remove the barriers that prevent it.
Everything else is just expensive noise.
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